Morning Meanderings…

Have you heard the news!  I am so excited to hear about Michelle Moran’s book Nefertiti being announced as Target’s Book Club pick!

Can you handle any more exciting news?  Good!  Here it is!

Michelle is going to stop by here in just a few hours to talk about her writing and about what it feels like to be a book club pick!  Michelle does all the traveling and exploring that I wish I could do!  She is such an inspiration.   She is also going to offer a signed copy of this book to be given away!  I am so excited to have her and hope you will all stop back and make her feel welcome!

A Black Tie Affair by Sherill Bodine (Giveaway)

Thank you to Hachette Book Group for allowing to give away 5 copies of this book!


Fashion curator Athena Smith will do anything to get her hands on the Clayworth family’s couture collection for her exhibit. So she’s thrilled when she’s called in to authenticate the gowns…until she falls ill while examining them and wakes up face-to-face with notorious Chicago bachelor Drew Clayworth.

Drew doesn’t trust Athena one bit. He still believes she betrayed him years ago. So when his family’s gowns go missing and Athena offers her help in exchange for the dresses, he reluctantly accepts. But they’re both taken off guard by the barely restrained passion that’s still between them…and the memories that are both bitter and sweet. As they work together to find the dresses, can they resist the sparks between them?

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Giveaway will end on February 14 (yes – Valentines Day!)  USA and Canada entries only

The Male Factor by Shaunti Feldhahn


When I read For Women Only, I was brought to several “ah ha” moments that made a difference for me.  The one thing that stands out for me in that book was that Shaunti pointed out that event the Bible says that husbands are to love their wives and wives are to RESPECT their husbands.  What Shaunti pointed out was that when interviewing 100 men and asking them if it was more important for them to feel loved or respected, 98% came back as saying respect was more important to them.  That blew me away.  And she was right, I tested it myself by showing more respect to Al and the business we own and the man….. blossomed.

All this I mention in prelude to The Male Factor.  I am not a fan of self-help books or advice books…. but Shaunti has won a hard-earned spot with me from the book mentioned above so to read The Male Factor was not ever of question.  And?  She delivers again.

In this book, Shaunti once again goes right to the source, this time interviewing 1,500 men.  She asks the questions and then gives us the answers.  Digging in to the minds of business men she brings back the difference between women being able to go to work and still keep playing in the background of our minds, where the kids are, what is the agenda for later as well as meal planning.  The men, according to Shaunti’s surveys have two different worlds – work world and personal world.  AT work world – it is all about work and their personal things are shut down to this.  Due to the brain function of men, they can become hyper focused on the job at hand and everything else is screened out.

Many topics are covered in this book that explain the differences of the internal wiring between men and women.  How mens brains work compared to women’s.  In this particular book by Felghahn I felt this would be an excellent read for women in the workplace who work alongside many men as this book is oriented towards men n the workplace.

Shaunti has a way with words and I find her book intelligent and well written.  I was engrossed in the learning of how men see things differently than women.  Arming yourself with this information could reallyc hange your work place environemt for the better.

Millions of women gained eye-opening insights about the inner lives of men through Shaunti Feldhahn’s best-selling book For Women Only. Now with The Male Factor, Feldhahn brings her pioneering research approach to the workplace to help women understand their male colleagues. Based on a nationwide survey and confidential interviews with thousands of men whose anonymity was guaranteed, her book reveals the private thoughts and attitudes that men rarely show but every woman needs to know.

Never before has an author gotten inside the hearts and minds of men in the workplace—from CEOs to nonprofit managers, from lawyers to factory workers—to discover what they commonly think about women on the job, what their expected “rules” of the workplace are, what “managing emotion” means, and what factors improve or harm a man’s respect for a female co-worker.

Among the little-known but critical insights The Male Factor reveals are:

o  how men, with rare exception, view almost any emotional display as a sign that the person can no longer think clearly (as well as what men perceive as emotion in the first place)
o  why certain types of trendy attire may actually sabotage a woman’s career
o  which little-known signals make sure that a man’s perception of a strong female colleague is positive (“assertive and competent”) instead of negative (“difficult”)

Even women who have navigated male-dominated work environments for years have expressed surprise at these and other revelations in the book. Some readers may find them challenging. Yet The Male Factor delivers a one-of-a-kind opportunity for women to understand how male bosses, colleagues, subordinates, and customers privately think, and why they react the way they do. These vital insights enable each woman to make informed decisions in her unique workplace situation.

Shaunti Feldhahn began her career as an analyst on Wall Street and today is a bestselling author, speaker, and nationally-syndicated newspaper columnist.  Her recent bestsellers have sold more than one million copies and have been translated into 18 different languages.  The books in her popular “Only” series, including For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, and For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women, For Parents Only and For Young Women Only (both of which were co-authored with youth speaker Lisa Rice), and For Young Men Only (co-authored with husband Jeff Feldhahn and Eric Rice, husband to Lisa Rice) have led to great life-change—and plenty of fascinating conversation—for men, women, parents and teens around the country. She has also authored two true-to-life spiritual thrillers. Shaunti’s newest book in the works is for women in the workplace, to be released December 29, 2009.  This book is a startling exploration of what men privately think in the workplace but rarely share; perceptions that often fundamentally affect their female colleagues.  Shaunti is now speaking to corporate groups and sharing this new research, so that women in the workplace can avoid unintentional self-sabotage and be particularly effective and influential with male bosses, colleagues, clients or subordinates.

This book is counted in the following Challenges:

2010 100+ Reading Challenge

My Amazon Review

I received my copy of this book fromWaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group


Morning Meanderings…

Good Morning!  I have been missing in action the last few days as far as getting around to visiting and I am sorry about that.  I had a crazy schedule as of late and have hopped from one event to the other, leaving me exhausted by the time I get home and with little energy to pop in and say hi.

I am hoping that is over now.  🙂  On Tuesday evening we had our Bookies Book Club meeting and review of 2009.  If you have followed me you know there was a survey for best and worst book of the year…. and last night I posted those results here.

Coffee Cup and I are full of energy this morning and I am hitting the gym in a few so need to share a bit of fun news.  Angie from our book club, The Bookies, has a book blog. I know, right?  I am so super excited about this!  Angie reads as much as I do if not even more.  She participated this past weekend in the Bloggiesta which was as always a blast and I have to tell you, Angie’s blog looks great!  Stop by and welcome her to book blogging!  She has actually been undercover for a while so she has a few reviews posted and they are really good.   I would love it if you would stop by, you can find her at:

By Book Or By Crook

Bookies Picks for 2009

We had our first book club meeting of the year last night and that also means we recapped 2009.  Every December we do a survey on our picks from the year and then I put all of our reviews into a book format that everyone receives a copy of and in this book, I reveal the winners – and losers- of 2009 per their voting.

Now… I can share the results with you:

First of all here are the books we read as a book club in 2009

(all questions on the survey were to be answered by using these books)

Sarah’s Key by Tatiana De Rosnay

Such a pretty Fat by Jen Lancaster

Firefly Lane by Kristin Hannah

The Book Thief By Marcus Zusak

Water For Elephants by Sara Gruen

Walking In Circles Before Lying Down by Merill Markoe

Wednesday Sisters by Meg Waite Clayton

Pope Joan by Donna Woolfork Cross

A Tree Grows In Brooklyn by Betty White

Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls

Home For The Holidays by Rebecca Kelly

And here are the survey results:

Favorite Female Character:  Pope Joan


Favorite Male Character:  Jacob from Water for Elephants   *(with an honorable mention to Pope Joan)

Best new (to us) author:  Sara Gruen (Water For Elephants)

Best Over All Author (new or old): Donna Woolfolk Cross/ Sara Gruen

Worst Book Of The Year:

Walking In Circles Before Lying Down

Best Book Of The Year:


There it is!  We had a great recap meeting… laughed as always at our funny memories of the year (Dressing in Prom Dresses in a storm for our Queen Event, sharing our Christmas traditions, two of our members dressing in clown atire for the review of Water For Elephants…)

*The votes are based on the opinions of the 18 girls in the Bookies Book Club. Majority votes won.

Victorious Living For Women

Victorious Living for Women is filled with the inspiration, wisdom and pathways to victory of 40 incredible women who share stories of their life experiences, from their heart to yours. They have endured personal pain and have come through empowered, encouraged and victorious. As they take you on their personal journeys you will find inspiration, encouragement and blueprints for victory embedded in each chapter. You will discover principles for transforming your life. You can learn how to overcome fear, find you purpose, define your destiny, recover from divorce, heal your heart, physical healing, dealing with the loss of loved ones and so much more. This stellar assembly of women with inspiring true-life stories will captivate you throughout each page as you read how their lives were transformed from anger to joy, disappointment to destiny and trial to victory. Their candor, wisdom and inspiration can help you to pursue your path of becoming a victorious woman.

Monday, January 11

All the Buzz Reviews
http://www.allthebuzzreviews.com

Debra Owsley
http://simplysaidreadingaccessories.blogspot.com

Shelia DeChantal
https://bookjourney.wordpress.com/

Tuesday, January 12

RAWSistaz Literary Group
http://www.rawsistaz.com

Kristinia Clos
http://www.lovingheartmommy.com

Stephanie McKenny
http://wordforwomen.wordpress.com/

Wednesday, January 13

SORMAG
http://sormag.blogspot.com/

LaTara Ham-Ying
http://www.momunplugged.com

Vanessa Richardson
http://thecertainones.blogspot.com

Black Authors Network
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Black-Author-Network
8:00 pm EST

Abundant Solutions
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/asemotivation
9:00 pm EST

Thursday, January 14

Black Pearls Magazine
http://www.edcmagazine.blogspot.com

Joey Reviews
http://www.joeypinkney.com/

LaCricia A’ngelle
http://authorlacricia.wordpress.com/

REAL TALK WITH TANYA WHITE Radio Show
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkwithtanyawhite
7:00 pm EST

WordThirst Literary Online Radio Show
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/ashea-goldson
8:00 pm EST

Friday, January 15

APOOO Book Club
http://www.apooobooks.com

Sharon Ball
http://www.sharonball.com

Written Voices Blog
http://www.writtenvoicesblog.com

Chocolate Pages Show
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/chocolatepages
4:00 pm EST

Morning Meanderings…

Poor Jennifer.  Jennifer is my early morning workout friend.  We have been meeting at the gym at 6:30 am several times a week.  Over the weekend on my way to the gym I was thinking how every morning we meet our conversation always turns to books.  Mainly because I turn it there.  Sure we will discuss whats going on in our lives, and work, and then inevitably I will bring up something I just read or am currently reading.  Jennifer is a reader, but not at the capacity that I do and not all the genre’s I do.

I was thinking how funny it was that I will chat away about books while we are on the treadmills.  Really…. she cant get away from me… it is like having a captive audience.  I think also with the level of passion that I talk about the books it is hard to shut me off and turn the direction around.  I told her I was going to write about her this morning and she thought that was pretty funny.

Do you tend to turn conversations to books when you are hanging out with others?  Do you have friends who share your passion for books?

Live Longer by Jonny Bowden PHD


Author Jonny Bowden looks at what he calls “The Four Horsemen of Aging”—free radicals, inflammation, glycation, and stress—and shows how they can harm your health and shorten your life. Bowden then unveils an arsenal of anti-aging strategies culled from cutting edge research and lessons learned from the longest lived people on the planet. He examines how the major organs, such as the heart and the brain, age and how you can prevent damage to these vital parts of the body. In total, readers learn what they can eat, do, and take to feel great, avoid illness, and live a long life.

It is never to early to start putting healthy habits in place and this book is a wonderful example of just that.   Jonny Bowden, Ph.D., C.N.S., is a nationally known expert on weight loss and nutrition.  In The Most Effective Ways To Live Longer Jonny focuses on what he calls the four horseman of aging:

  • Oxidative Damage
  • Inflammation
  • Glycation
  • Stress

As the book says, the four horseman of aging is anything that’s happening to your body that you wish were not happening, from the beginning of disease to the breakdown of systems to the loss of functionality… all this is being driven by the engine of these four processes.

Yes the above paragraph is depressing.  This book is all about taking these four steps and through diet and exercise how to keep the horses at bay.  And this…. I love.

Foods like wild salmon (a perfect anti aging food) to blueberries (filled with antioxidants and cancer fighters)…. we are walked through delicious choices that keep you young and healthy – inside and out.  Exercises like crunches for the abdominal muscles, squats for legs and lower body, weight resistance and more.  This book is a wealth of knowledge.


The Blue Zone chapter was fascinating!  Every so often, a team of researchers will discover a little corner of the globe where- inexplicably- people routinely live to 100 or more. These areas have come to be known as “The Blue Zones” and scientists have spent hundreds of research hours trying to uncover their secrets.  Some of these secrets are reveealed within the pages of this book.

This book is a wonderful reference that with slight adjustments to our everyday lives we can apply. Through these steps we can slow even stop the aging process.  What is not to like about that?  Big bold pictures and written in an easy to follow, even funny tone… page by page you are going to eat up this knowledge and truly be better for it in the end.

Who Is Jonny Bowden?

He has been featured in The New York Times, The New York Post, Chicago Sun Times, Chicago Tribune, Time, GQ, Cosmopolitan, Oxygen, Remedy, Family Circle, Self, Fitness, Allure, Essence, Men’s Health, Pilates Style, Prevention, Woman’s World, In Style, Fitness, Natural Health and Shape and has appeared on Fox News, CNN, MSNBC, ABC, NBC and CBS as an expert on nutrition, weight loss, and health..

*My Amazon Review

I received this book from Pump Up Your Blog Promotion

Morning Meanderings…

Morning!  Tonight is my first book club meeting of the year,  We will be reviewing The Heretics Daughter and unveiling our best book club read of 2009.  I will reveal that information tomorrow to all of you as well as who they chose for their favorite male and female characters from our 2009 reads and yes, even the book they voted the worst book club read of 2009.  I cant wait to share the winning book….but I can’t reveal to all of you… before I share it with all of them.


I have tons to do yet today to get ready so I will be in the office early.  I have a report to prepare as well as the layout for 2010… and yeah… I have procrastinated on getting this done so this is my own bad.  🙂

Are you in a book club?  If so, do you have any fun things that you do that you could share?  If not, why not?

What To Do When The Roof Caves In by Merilyn Meberg

This book opened my eyes to things I did not know were out there… what an eye opening tool for keeping the “roof” of your world intact..  Sheila

We all walk through life with nagging questions – questions that spring from fear, doubt, guilt, and pain.  And the harder we fight to ignore them, the faster they weaken our defenses.  Like hail on a weak roof, they pile up until the sky comes falling in.

Marilyn addressed some hard topics in this book.  In a gutsy format that is not only informative, shocking, and at times even funny…. Marilyn tackles the tough topics of addiction, adultery, pornography, divorce, and death.  In her book, What To Do When The Roof Caves In Marilyn gives hard facts of situations that are happening all over our world.  With stories of her own life incidences, such as when many years ago she discovered her 5 year old had a poster of the voluptuous Raquel Welch.  Once Jeff came home from kindergarten (KINDERGARTEN!),over two Mystic Mint cookies, their conversation went like this:

Marilyn:  “Why don’t you tell me about your Raquel poster.”


Jeff (5): ‘ I think she is really pretty.”


Marilyn:  “What is pretty about her?”


Jeff (5):  She beautiful eyes and a beautiful face.  I like to look at her.”


Marilyn:  “Do you think she should be wearing a blouse with a higher neckline?”


Jeff (5):  “Oh no.  Her blouse is perfect.  It goes with her eyes.”


Marilyn:  “Were you hiding the poster?  Is that why it was under your bed?”


Jeff (5):  I wasn’t sure you would like her eyes as much as I do.”


At other times Marilyn’s topics are much harder to grasp like her chapter on children having sex at unheard of young ages that would break your heart.  How school playground monitors have much more serious things to watch for then the petty fighting or name calling that went on in playgrounds when we were growing up.  This chapter alone left me with a sickening twist in my stomach…. I had no idea…

For anyone who is dealing with hard life opportunities…. or for anyone who wants to help keep the roof intact before these opportunities arise, Marilyn has a message for each of us.  Somewhere, something in this book will touch you or someone you know.

Each chapter ends with discussion questions to go over with your children, spouse, or your friend.  Marilyn arms us with tools, topics, and scriptures to refer to that will keep our roof in good working order through the unforeseen storms of life.


Marilyn Meberg is a speaker at the Women of Faith Conference that I have attended the past 4 years.  I honestly have to say the first time I seen this woman I felt she couldn’t possibly have anything to say that would be of value to me.  I was extremely wrong for judging this woman.  She is witty and funny and at the same time her message gets right to the heart of the matter.

Women of Faith is a Conference that I highly recommend.  I have gone for 4 years now when it comes to Minneapolis each October and it is a weekend event like you would not believe.  The speakers are humorous, outrageous, and at the same time they remind us of how important it is to have women friends and times like these weekends to get away and refill our spirits.    Every year I laugh with the crazy humor of Anita Renfroe, and love the wisdom that Sheila Walsh brings to the table.  Add Patsy Clairmont who will make you laugh until you cry and music by Steven Curtis Chapman…  well, it is a great time that I highly recommend.

This book is counted in the following Challenges:

2010 100+ Reading Challenge

My Amazon Review

I received my copy of this book from The Women Of Faith Conference, MPLS MN. Oct. 2009