The Male Factor by Shaunti Feldhahn


When I read For Women Only, I was brought to several “ah ha” moments that made a difference for me.  The one thing that stands out for me in that book was that Shaunti pointed out that event the Bible says that husbands are to love their wives and wives are to RESPECT their husbands.  What Shaunti pointed out was that when interviewing 100 men and asking them if it was more important for them to feel loved or respected, 98% came back as saying respect was more important to them.  That blew me away.  And she was right, I tested it myself by showing more respect to Al and the business we own and the man….. blossomed.

All this I mention in prelude to The Male Factor.  I am not a fan of self-help books or advice books…. but Shaunti has won a hard-earned spot with me from the book mentioned above so to read The Male Factor was not ever of question.  And?  She delivers again.

In this book, Shaunti once again goes right to the source, this time interviewing 1,500 men.  She asks the questions and then gives us the answers.  Digging in to the minds of business men she brings back the difference between women being able to go to work and still keep playing in the background of our minds, where the kids are, what is the agenda for later as well as meal planning.  The men, according to Shaunti’s surveys have two different worlds – work world and personal world.  AT work world – it is all about work and their personal things are shut down to this.  Due to the brain function of men, they can become hyper focused on the job at hand and everything else is screened out.

Many topics are covered in this book that explain the differences of the internal wiring between men and women.  How mens brains work compared to women’s.  In this particular book by Felghahn I felt this would be an excellent read for women in the workplace who work alongside many men as this book is oriented towards men n the workplace.

Shaunti has a way with words and I find her book intelligent and well written.  I was engrossed in the learning of how men see things differently than women.  Arming yourself with this information could reallyc hange your work place environemt for the better.

Millions of women gained eye-opening insights about the inner lives of men through Shaunti Feldhahn’s best-selling book For Women Only. Now with The Male Factor, Feldhahn brings her pioneering research approach to the workplace to help women understand their male colleagues. Based on a nationwide survey and confidential interviews with thousands of men whose anonymity was guaranteed, her book reveals the private thoughts and attitudes that men rarely show but every woman needs to know.

Never before has an author gotten inside the hearts and minds of men in the workplace—from CEOs to nonprofit managers, from lawyers to factory workers—to discover what they commonly think about women on the job, what their expected “rules” of the workplace are, what “managing emotion” means, and what factors improve or harm a man’s respect for a female co-worker.

Among the little-known but critical insights The Male Factor reveals are:

o  how men, with rare exception, view almost any emotional display as a sign that the person can no longer think clearly (as well as what men perceive as emotion in the first place)
o  why certain types of trendy attire may actually sabotage a woman’s career
o  which little-known signals make sure that a man’s perception of a strong female colleague is positive (“assertive and competent”) instead of negative (“difficult”)

Even women who have navigated male-dominated work environments for years have expressed surprise at these and other revelations in the book. Some readers may find them challenging. Yet The Male Factor delivers a one-of-a-kind opportunity for women to understand how male bosses, colleagues, subordinates, and customers privately think, and why they react the way they do. These vital insights enable each woman to make informed decisions in her unique workplace situation.

Shaunti Feldhahn began her career as an analyst on Wall Street and today is a bestselling author, speaker, and nationally-syndicated newspaper columnist.  Her recent bestsellers have sold more than one million copies and have been translated into 18 different languages.  The books in her popular “Only” series, including For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, and For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women, For Parents Only and For Young Women Only (both of which were co-authored with youth speaker Lisa Rice), and For Young Men Only (co-authored with husband Jeff Feldhahn and Eric Rice, husband to Lisa Rice) have led to great life-change—and plenty of fascinating conversation—for men, women, parents and teens around the country. She has also authored two true-to-life spiritual thrillers. Shaunti’s newest book in the works is for women in the workplace, to be released December 29, 2009.  This book is a startling exploration of what men privately think in the workplace but rarely share; perceptions that often fundamentally affect their female colleagues.  Shaunti is now speaking to corporate groups and sharing this new research, so that women in the workplace can avoid unintentional self-sabotage and be particularly effective and influential with male bosses, colleagues, clients or subordinates.

This book is counted in the following Challenges:

2010 100+ Reading Challenge

My Amazon Review

I received my copy of this book fromWaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group


19 thoughts on “The Male Factor by Shaunti Feldhahn

  1. Hmm, sounds intriguing. Not my usual fare, since a part of me shuts down when I hear words like “respect the man.” LOL.

    But I consider myself open-minded, so that means considering all kinds of information and not ruling it out without further investigation.

    Thanks for sharing…

    1. This one Laurel pertains more to men in the workplace and gives you insight in that area. Shaunti’s book, For Women Only was a better fit for me and has to do with men in general and why they think so differently then women. I found it fascinating.

    1. Hi Sharon – I would suggest For Women Only over this one for you in this case. This one was men at the workplace. Very helpful if you worked in an environment with all or mostly men.

    1. It was interesting Heather to read about what men think sabotages a woman’s career by how they dress or act at work. I had never really thought about how men perceive me at work before.

  2. The problem that I have with books like this, is where are the books telling men what we think/how our brains work??? Why should we adjust the way we behave and not them???

  3. I’m so glad you posted this! I have read FOR WOMEN ONLY and thought it was fantastic, but hadn’t heard she’d written another book. It may be very timely — I may well be losing my librarian job in a few months. Since I have another (much older) Master’s degree in Math, I may look for a job in a tech firm. If that happens, I’d switch from an almost all-women work environment to an almost all-men work environment. I would feel better even about interviewing if I read this book!

  4. Great post Sheila! I’m not working outside the home anymore but when I did I could have used a book like this. That said I’ve always worked better with men than with women–too much drama with women 🙂 I’ll recommend this one to my working friends.

    1. Laurel I thought the love/respect thing was too and I have to tell you it worked wonders for us. I always thought it was most important to show we loved our husbands. I tweaked that thought to show more of an interest in his work and how proud I was of him building our business from the ground up and he just opened up and talked more and was happier! It was crazy!

  5. librarypat

    I think this book and what it covers is long overdue. Not knowing how the other person perceives what is being said or happening has caused many problems and will continue to do so.

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