Mother’s Day Morning Meanderings….

Happy Mother’s Day!

For those of you who have followed this site for a long, long time, you may remember Morning Meanderings… the posts where I just shared my life – not just books.

I miss that.

I miss that place to put my voice… put my thoughts.

So here goes.

Mother’s Day is a mixed bag of nuts for me. One amazing son on earth. Once amazing son in Heaven since 2015. This. Changes. This Day.

Throughout the years, many people have said how strong I am. And I never felt strong. If you have been through something like this, you know what I mean. You do what you have to do. You get up. You function… You have good days, and you have days when you are a little sad, sometimes even a little mad.

As cringy as saying this is – life does go on.

It’s just…. different.

For whatever reason, this morning…. I feel strong. I feel that no one will ever understand my personalized concoction of grief. My mom is gone (car accident). My dad and sister are gone (house fire). My son – you know…. and it’s A LOT. Let’s be honest.

We all have stuff.

Last night, I worked as a Wedding Coordinator, and I worked HARD. 12 hours of non-stop setting up a room, setting up the outdoor Ceremony Space, setting the place cards, checking dietary information, MOVING MOVING MOVING. On top of my already full week at my Real Job 🙂

It’s what gets me through…. Busy.

And now here we are today. And the sun is shining… and I’m drinking my coffee out of my Harry Potter cup (far right in picture) because I choose my cup of the day – by mood ( I am a sentimental beast – always have been). And the Harry Potter cup is from my son, Brad.

Today….
I am self-caring.
Sheila Style.

I’m going to mow the lawn. That may not sound like self-care, but it is. I LOVE to mow the lawn. I made sure my dorky 80s style headphones are charged up so I can listen to my book, which is the 4th in a series ( more on that soon), and I should finish that today.

And … I’m going to sit on the deck in the sun and read. I have a few ideas here…

Brad and Kylie will pop over this afternoon, we will grill tonight, and I am going to pick up a nice bottle of wine.

That’s my plan.

It’s not often I just hang. There’s always a project… there’s always something I should fix, clean, update, DO.

And…

Not today.

Today I am just going to BE. Allow myself to feel the feels with the sun on my face and quiet, persistent memories in my heart. And that’s ok.

I hope to write more Meanderings…. so much to share .. so much I want to have a record of on this crazy space that has been my shared space since 2009.

Have an amazing day.

~Sheila

Love Lucy by Lucille Ball

Not exactly what I was hoping for – but still interesting. ~ Sheila

This book is the unknown manuscript that Lucy had been writing about her life. Following her death on April 26th (interestingly enough, the day I am writing this review), 1989, her children found the 300-page unpublished manuscript among her belongings.

The book is a detailed look into her early days and subsequent marriage to Desi Arnaz, and this in part, is why the book was not published during her life, as it is said that she did not want to cause pain to her ex-husband.

I was looking forward to hearing more about Lucy’s career, and while I did get that, there was a long lead-in about how the manuscript was discovered and a lot of extra stuff that seemed (IMO) to take a lot of time to get into the story I wanted to know more about.

I did enjoy this book on audio and loved the narration of her daughter, Lucie Arnaz. Honestly, she sounded just like Lucy, and I have to believe that Lucy would have loved that.

Rated: 3 out of 5
Read Author Before: No
Read Author Again: –
Where Read: Home

Bookclub Worthy: Possibly yes. Memoirs I think, make for good discussion if it is centered around someone that your group knows/grew up with. There’s an opportunity here to discuss your favorite shows as a child/teen. Did you watch Lucy? Did you enjoy it? Did you know anything about her real life before the book?

To level up you could watch a popular episode together. Research food that was on the show (simple American) and funny food moments ( Beef Goulash, Burgers, Salad, sardines w/ Mashed potatoes ( on an episode), and Spaghetti.

The Price Of Honey by Liane Moriarty

Well….. ` is a little Moriarty better than no Moriarty? Sheila

Honey Beckett can’t believe her husband, Barney, is dead. Tech genius, brilliant with money – and had plenty of it.

Yet, here she is driving to his funeral, so it must be true. And – he was more than twice his age, so there’s that as well.

On a whim, she decided to sit next to his three ex-wives, Rita, Svetlana, and Meredith – all having been betrayed by Barney –

Honey is no exception. And there is more to come.

I was so excited to see Liane Moriarty have a new book coming out, I immediately pre-ordered this title on audio.
What I did not catch was that this was a short story, and the audio was 56 minutes long ( 34 minutes when you listen at a faster speed like I do).

While fabulous in the way that Moriarty is – I am not a fan of short stories – I like to dig into a good read, and this had all the makings of a full-length book.

Admittedly – disappointed.

Rated: 2.5 out of 5 – due to length – or lack thereof
Read Author Before: Yes
Read Author Again: Yes but I will pay attention to page count 🙂
Where Read: Home

Bookclub Worthy: Nope.

RODHAM by Curtis Sittenfeld

Insightful! ~Sheila

In 1971, Hillary Rodham had big dreams and big expectations for herself. She is attending YALE and a part of the Women’s Rights Activists. Already, she has political aspirations, and when she meets Bill Clinton, who has many of the same dreams and goals as herself, and well, he fits the bill. (Pun intended)

The two become an item – and to the naked eye, this couple looks as though they have found their like partner in life. The two often seen together debating over politics, challenging each other emotionally, and great partners physically. And while Hillary follows Bill upon his request to come to Arkansas – AND even though Bill proposes several times to Hillary…

She turns him down.

His struggle with infidelity weighs on her even though she does love him. Perhaps, she thinks, in time this will pass, and he will come back to her – breaking her own heart – she leaves him.

And so, Author Curtis Sittenfeld weaves a fictional tale of two famous people. Weaving in sprinkles of fact with cups of fiction – creating an engaging tale of the pash not taken.

So – admittedly… I did not read this synopsis. Going in, I thought this was a non-fiction read about Bill and Hillary, and while I do not have a political bone in my body, I grabbed this from a little free library in Florida.

So… this will get a little embarrassing…

Because of my lack of reading the synopsis – I actually shared a part of the story with a friend I was volunteering with a few weeks ago – saying I did not know Bill Clinton had married before Hillary, and my friend saying that they did not know that either. As I shared the book details, I started to realize that what I was saying didn’t add up… so I looked up more on the book and ate a little crow of now knowing what the heck I was talking about 🙂

Anyhoo – way to go, Curtis! The book was engaging, and while I admit I did not enjoy it quite as much once I realized it was mostly a fictional alternate universe, I still enjoyed the background story and learning a little more of the TRUE statements on young Hillary… a powerhouse even in her youth.

Rated: 3 out of 5 (it was trending higher until I realized it was fiction) 🙂
Read Author Before: Yes
Read Author Again: Yes
Where Read: picked up in Florida, where we were staying, but read in Minnesota

Bookclub Worthy: Good question. I’m not sure – while the book is about the political drive, its not political, which is good for bigger book clubs like mine. While the alternative world is interesting, I’m not sure how much a book club ( at least the one I am in) woudl find discussion worthy. AND – like the book itself, I could be totally wrong.

Old Money by Kelsey Miller

Twenty-two years ago, Caitlin Dale died at an exclusive country club on the 4th of July. Now, all these years later, Alice, Caitlin’s cousin, has returned to her hometown to uncover the truth. They said that Caitlin’s death was an accident, but Alice knows better, and she’s about to prove it.

But a town’s secrets, as Alice is about to learn, like to stay buried. And some will go to great lengths to keep it that way.

Old Money is a good twisty mystery with plenty of fingers being pointed. If anything, that may have been the downfall for me… while much of the read was good and interesting, I found my mind wandering and not fully engaged enough to pick up on everything. (Honestly, it could have just been me as well)

Rated: 2.75 out of 5
Read Author Before: No
Read Author Again: unsure
Where Read: Home

Bookclub Worthy: Most mysteries are, and I imagine the review of the story itself – what happened and its believability are all topics of discussion
The Country Club theme lends itself to some fun drinks and appetizers for the get-together of book clubs

The Mad Wife by Meagan Church

Not what I was expecting, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing,` Sheila

Lulu Mayfield, a 1950s housewife, lives a perfect suburban life, keeps a perfect home for her husband and her son, and is known in her neighborhood for her amazing jello salads. That is, until the birth of her second child.

Motherhood never came easy to Lulu, and juggling two children and a home and keeping up with all the things – the shopping, the cooking, the cleaning… ALL OF IT is exhausting. Every morning she gazes at the empty house across the street imaging what it would be like to live there on her own and shut out all the daily demands.

When the home across the street is sold, and the new neighbors move in, the wife, Bitsy, is nice but distant, and now the house fantasy for Lulu is gone. As the days go one Lulu feels as though everything is piling on – to the point that she can not get out of bed and is exhausted even thinking about what is on her to-do list.

I get tired even thinking about the things the housewives of the 50s had to do. This is not my first read on the subject of this era and the women’s roles, and while fascinating… also frustrating. I can not even imagine having to stay home and care for everyone and everything… I’d have trouble getting out of bed as well.

An interesting read with a little mystery intertwined, which helps the book from feeling too heavy.

Rated: 3.5 out of 5
Read Author Before: No
Read Author Again: Possibly
Where Read: Home

Bookclub Worthy: yes. While my club has discussed this subject before, this is a different twist on the 1950s woman. Depression and suicide are both subjects to discuss.
Food would be fun – the 1950s gatherings give you plenty of ideas for a neighborhood party, and of course, someone needs to bring the jello salad.

This Story Might Save Your Life by Tiffany Crum

I don’t know what it is about me and podcast books… but I love them. ~Sheila

Benny and Joy have been best friends for so long that they may as well just say forever. Their podcast “This Story Might Save Your Life is one of the highest rated in the world as Benny and Joy share outrageous (but true!) stories ripped from the headlines of near-death scenarios and question each other on what you have done. With Joy’s husband, Xander, as the podcast manager, they have gone beyond their wildest dreams.

Yet one morning, when Benny shows up at Joy and Xander’s home to record, he finds the house empty with no sign of where the couple went. More peculiar is that Joy’s beloved dog is found wandering the streets, and Benny knows Joy would never have left him – not willingly.

As Benny tried to find clues in a memoir that Joy was writing, the clock was ticking – the many fans were making public opinions, and the police were looking for foul play, and looking at Benny.

But even the most devoted fans would not see the reality of what happened coming – or the secrets that are about to be revealed.


I have to say – SOOOOOO much fun on audio. This is one of the books that I enjoyed the play of the podcasts and how well Benny and Joy played to the audience, that I have to question if I would have loved it this much if I had read the book.

It was just – fun. I know I said that already. Right from the start, I was all in. I love Julia Whelenas as a narrator, and Sean Patrick Hopkins was fantastic as well. The book kept me guessing and well…

you know… I really liked it 🙂

Rated: 4,5 out of 5
Read Author Before: No
Read Author Again: If it’s like this, you bet!
Where Read: Home

Bookclub Worthy: I think so! While the end has a bit of predictability, it is fun getting there. A discussion could be held on the popularity of podcasts yay or nay. DO you listen, and if so, to what and why? (Funny enough – I like to read about them, but I do not listen to them)

You With The Sad Eyes By Christina Applegate

If you enjoy Christina’s TV and move pressence, this one is one to give a go. I learned much… and I had no idea. ~Sheila

You may know Christina ( as I do) from her early career years on the sitcom Married With Children, as Kelly Bundy, or the 1991 movie, Don’t Tell Mom. You may know her for the 2002 Movie The Sweetest Thing, one of my personal favorites – or maybe hor her most recent Dead To Me ( 2019 – 2022 series).

If you know who she is, you most likely know of her MS diagnosis in 2021- but you may not know of a tragically hard childhood being subjected to horrible things, a horrific relationship ( or two), as well as her cancer diagnosis.
Throughout it all, Christina has maintained a work ethic ( to a fault) with her head held high ( for the most part) – and for at least as long as she can.

While never a fan of Married With Children, I have enjoyed quite a few movies Christina has been in, and through the years, really begun to appreciate her skills as an actress. When I heard about this memoir, I was all in, always enjoying the behind-the-scenes dishing of stars I grew up with, the funny things we don’t know, as well as the harder truths.

This book was definitely harder truths than I bargained for. Christina shares a lifetime of happenings that left me sad for her rise to stardom despite some insane odds, only to be knocked down by an unforgiving disease that knows no boundaries.

If there was ever a time to say something was not fair…

Christina is pretty real and raw – at times a little too real and raw as you pick up on the bitterness ( rightfully so) of all she has been through to land here – walking with a cane, and in pain most of the time, as well as a few graphically described moments as she is narrating. Still – even though parts are HARD – there are parts I loved…. her behind-the-scenes antics with Cameron Diaz made me think that if I were in her circles, we would have been friends.

While not the easiest read – suggested for fans – it’s important to know it all.

Rated: 4 out of 5
Read Author Before: No
Read Author Again: I think this is a one-and-done for her
Where Read: Home

Bookclub Worthy: I don’t believe our book club has even done a memoir, and I think it would be interesting to do one over a person’s story that we are familiar with. This book could be one that could make for an interesting discussion – not only about memoirs but also about our personal history with the author – tv, movies, etc…

Yes there is food in the book – the one that stands out for me is the shrimp and Christina hiding to eat two…. (WYKTK) Oof.

Want To Know A Secret by Freida McFadden

April Masterson and her hit YouTube Channel can tell you all about making melt-in-your-mouth lemon bars or how not to burn the edges of your brownies. She lives in a right-out-of-a-movie-style suburb with her husband, Elliot, and son, Bobby. All of this gives her the perfect wholesome, well-rounded media presence.

But when anonymous messages start being delivered to April… her perfect world begins to unravel. Someone is messing with April… someone who knows her deepest, darkest secrets. And the options of who it could be…. are many.

So yeah… I know. McFadden. Here we are again. I love her. And sometimes I don’t. This one falls in between. A lot was going on here…. while true to McFadden style… for me, it was too much going on. So many different ways this could have gone. In the end, I think I was so confused I didn’t care.

Was it me? Possibly. Maybe it was the wrong time for this one, and I was distracted. But not my fav.

Rated: 2.75ish out of 5
Read Author Before: yes
Read Author Again: yes because I do often enjoy her
Where Read: Back home after Vacation

Bookclub Worthy: I’m going to say no and probably for personal reasons – I want books for book club that make you think – that bring something to the discussion. Sure – you can talk about who did it and who we suspected – yes, there are some great ideas for food here with all the baking… but for myself…. I want more.

The Other Woman by Sandie Jones

Only put this one down to use the bathroom! ~ Sheila

Emily can not believe her luck when she meets Adam Banks. He is good-looking, funny, and kind, and they seem like the perfect fit.
What Emily did not count on was another woman who loves Adam so fiercely that she would do anything to destroy his relationship with Emily.

Meet Pammie – Adam’s mother.

Oh, sweet team with a lemon slice! Was this crazy, crazy good! Pammie pulls out every trick in the book, from feigning frailty, the inability to care for herself, to inviting Emily’s nemesis to Emily’s bridal shower weekend. Adam, of course, is blind to it all – having an excuse for every one of Pammie’s behaviors to the point that it makes Emily look like she is the one being the mega B.

I found this book at a little free library area of the RV park we were staying at in Florida recently. I left a nice bundle of the books I had finished reading and scooped a few more on the way home. I kind of love that Sarah Pekkanen’s quote is on the front cover, as I have just finished her newest book as well.

Highly recommend picking this one up – it surprised me in all the good ways …. in fact, I actually looked at the page # when I finally got the “Oh wait a minute…. ” moment. It was page 285.

Rated: 4 out of 5
Read Author Before: Yes
Read Author Again: You Bet
Where Read: Georgia – on our way home from Florida by RV

Bookclub Worthy: Yes! There is a lot of detective work we can flesh out – almost building your own crime scene board…. the “Who did it and the motives” A whole glass-free meeting would be fun as well… pulling food items such as Pizza and Nachos ( comfort foods during meetings between Stella and Rose) – also Tea, Wine


Rated: 5 out of 5
Read Author Before: I don’t think so
Read Author Again: I would!
Where Read: Illinois – on our way home from Florida by RV

Bookclub Worthy: YES! What fun conversation you cna have about mothers/mothers-in-law…. if anyone has a story they wish to share, the red flags with Adam, the “where would you call it and move on moment”, and so much more I can’t say without spoilers 🙂

Food – Curry, Take Out, Wine