To My Book Loving Friends… An Update On Me

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Dear Friends, while I am up to it I want to share with you my absence.  On Saturday April 4th my wonderful 24 year old son Justin was killed in a car accident.  I can not even tell you the pain that myself, his father, and his brother are in.  Justin was an amazing kid with such a great spirit and love for all things.  If you want, you may follow me on Facebook at Sheila DeChantal where I am posting occasional updates.  Beyond that I am unsure when I will be able to return to this spot, although I do hope that some day I will.

 

217 Comments on “To My Book Loving Friends… An Update On Me

  1. I am so sorry. I can’t imagine what you are going through. 😦

  2. I’m so so sorry to hear of your loss and will keep you and your family in thoughts and prayers as you try to come to terms with it.

  3. Oh, Sheila – I’ve been thinking about you so much. I can only imagine your pain and grief. Please know that many people who care about you are thinking about and praying for you. -beth

  4. I am so very sorry for your loss. My sincerest sympathy to you and your family.

  5. Sheila, please do know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I am sending you virtual hugs all the way from Singapore.

  6. Sheila, may God wrap his loving arms around you and your family to help you accept and deal with this terrible tragedy. Please know that others feel your pain and that you and your family are in our prayers.

  7. So sorry to hear your devastating news.

  8. This makes me so very sad. I have two kids myself, and can’t bear the thought of losing them. Your family is in my thoughts. Take care.

  9. I’m so sorry for your loss, Sheila. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

  10. Oh Sheila…I’m so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hugs to you all! XXoo

  11. I am very very sorry for your loss. I know our words aren’t going to help much but I’ll keep wishing you the best sending you the best vibes.
    Hugs and love!

  12. My heart is breaking for you. Know that you and your family are in my thoughts during this most difficult time.

  13. Oh my gosh, Sheila. I am so sorry for your loss. What a tragedy. I cannot imagine the pain you all are feeling. And my heart goes out to you all. Please know you’re in my thoughts.

  14. Sheila, I am devastated to hear of the loss of your son. I can’t imagine anything more painful. Please know that although we’ve never met, I am praying for your family and sending you sincere and heartfelt sympathy.

  15. Shelia,

    Words can not express how sorry I am to hear about your son. Please know you are in my prayers.

    Sincerely, Zora

    Sent from my iPad

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  16. May God hold you and your family in His loving arms and grant you the strength to endure such incredible pain. The love and pride you feel for Justin was evident in every word you wrote about him. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  17. I was so sorry to hear about Justin. There are no words that can heal this kind of pain, but I hope knowing that we are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers will be of some comfort.

  18. Sheila, there are no words. My heart is broken for you and your dear family. Keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers daily.

  19. Oh, I’m so very sorry. What a tragedy for your family. I know nothing anyone can say will help right now, but you and your family are in my thoughts.

  20. Oh my heart aches for you.so many prayers to you.

  21. Sheila, nooo. I’ve been following you since you first started blogging. I subscribe via email and read every one of your posts even though I don’t comment. I think of you as a friend. I know how much you love your boys. I am absolutely devastated for you and am crying at this news. I can’t imagine the pain you are in. Please know your followers are thinking of you and holding you in our prayers. I am so sorry for your pain.

  22. Sheila, I’m heartbroken for you and your family. I’ve enjoyed reading about your sons on your blog and I’m devastated for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you, Al, your sons and your family.

  23. Sheila. Your many friends and readers are so sorry for your loss and the world’s loss of a great guy who we loved reading about.

  24. Dear Sheila, I cannot imagine the pain you and your family are going through. Hopefully you will find some small solace in the outpouring of sympathy and love that you find on this page. I am adding healing thoughts and prayers to the many now headed your way.

  25. OMG! Sheila,you’d just spent time with him! If you need us, please know we are here as pastor, therapist, and friends. And we always will be. Andres and Rebekah

  26. I am so very sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you and your family. I can’t even imagine the pain you are feeling at this time. Please know we are all thinking of you.

  27. My thoughts have been going to you often since I heard the news. So many of us are thinking of you and your family and holding you in our hearts.

  28. Sheila, I’m so sorry to hear about your son. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts — I know all your blog friends will be doing the same.

  29. I heard the news on Facebook and my heart breaks for you. I am praying for your family and will continue to pray for your strength and peace during this very difficult time.

  30. I know that there will never be words to make things better, but I hope that seeing the outpouring of thoughts will bring you some small comfort. We’ll all be thinking of you and your family.

  31. Sheila- My heart breaks for you! You and your family are in my prayers.

  32. Sheila, my heart aches for you and your family. You have been in my thoughts since I heard the devastating news. Sending hugs and strength.

  33. Oh my goodness. I am so, so, so sorry!! I can’t imagine the pain you must be feeling. I hope you can find the strength necessary to get through these tough times. We will be here for you if (or when) you choose to return.

  34. Sheila, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. This is a terrible tragedy. I hope you can find your strength in these trying times and that God grants you peace going forward. I’ll keep you in my prayers.

  35. Sheila, I was shocked and devastated to read this. Please accept my sincere condolences.

  36. Sheila, my heart goes out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your great loss.

  37. I have 2 sons and the thought of your loss of such a fine boy is too much to bear I wish I could say something that would help you I am thinking of you and your family

  38. I never met Justin, but just from what I know of you, I can imagine what kind of person he was, how he embodied your spirit and fun. I cannot express how sorry I am for you, Sheila. I’ve been thinking of you often, trying to figure out what I can do to help. Know that you are in my thoughts and heart, Sheila. So much love.

  39. What a tragedy! I am so very sorry for your loss, Sheila. My thoughts are with you and your family. All my love…

  40. I already said this on FB, but much love to you and yours during this difficult time, and going forward. Your friends are all here for you. xo

  41. Sheila, My heart is breaking for you. Sending you hugs, love and support. So sorry for your deep and painful loss.

  42. Sheila,I am so sorry about the loss of your beloved Justin … What a loss- my prayers are with you and your family

  43. I’m so sorry to hear this news. I’m new to the blogging community, but everyone’ welcomed me with open arms, and it’s very much a family. If we can do anything at all, Sheila, please just let us know!

    Sending support and positive vibes during this difficult time.

  44. I am so very sorry. You and your family are in my prayers and thoughts.

  45. Oh my goodness!! I’m so sorry for your loss Sheila… Even though I’ve only just met you, I feel like I’ve known you for a long time. I pray for God’s blessings to give you strength and even peace during this difficult time.

  46. Dear Sheila
    I want to express my deepest sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your son. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.

  47. Oh Sheila! There are no words … My heart goes out to you and your family.

  48. Sheila, Although I’ve never met you, I have been following you via email since you started blogging, and think of you as a friend. My heart is hurting for you and your family at this sad, sad news. I only hope you are able to get some small amount of solace from the huge outpouring of love and thoughts expressed here. I will hold you and your family in my thoughts and prayers that you are able to get through this painful time.

  49. Sheila, I can’t imagine nor pretend to imagine what you’re going through. I pray for your and your family’s comfort and healing.for your broken hearts.

  50. I am so sorry for your family’s loss and I know that all our words are little comfort in the face of his passing, but perhaps it helps a bit to know we are all thinking of you, sending positive thoughts, or saying prayers for you. May God hold you close, and hold you up, during this period of sadness…

  51. My condolences to you and your family on this sad occurrence. My heart goes out to all of you. I don’t have a Facebook account so I will miss you..
    Betty

  52. So sorry to hear this. My prayers are with you and your family. A Bible verse that really helped me when I suddenly lost my father is Psalm 73:26 – “Though my heart and my flesh may fail, God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”

  53. Oh my God! I cannot imagine your pain Sheila. I am so sorry for you loss. May God bless you, your family and give you strength.

  54. Ah s***t. Have no words, apart to say my heart goes out to you and your family.

  55. How awful. I am so sorry for your loss. Your heartbreak must be all encompassing. My thoughts are with you.

  56. Sheila, I am so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers <3.

  57. So very sorry for your unimaginable grief. Peace be with you.

  58. Know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers, and we wish we could all be there for you.

  59. Oh Sheila, I’m heartbroken to hear of your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

  60. Sheila, I am so very sorry for your loss! That is so horrible. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  61. Sheila – I left a comment on 4/6 on your About me page. Again – my sympathies and heartfelt prayers are with you and your family.

  62. There are no words that I could say that could make you feel better. But I am so sad and sorry for you, to hear this news. You are a wonderful bright light in this community and we will be here to support you in any possible way. I am so sorry again. Please know you are in my thoughts.

  63. Oh, my god. I am shocked. I cannot believe this can happen to someone so loving and giving and positive. I just cannot even fathom how you would begin to cope with this, and I imagine that you will probably be the ‘rock’ for everyone around you, even though your heart is breaking. I pray that you can find some comfort at this time in knowing that all your friends are thinking of you and sending love. So sorry.

  64. Sheila, my heart aches for you and your family.

  65. Oh no Sheila no! I’m saying a prayer right now for you. *hug*

  66. Oh, Sheila, I just saw this and my heart is breaking for you. I can’t even imagine, but it’s for sure one of my worst nightmares as a mom. I hope you are surrounded by as much love in person as you have out here in the social media sphere. I will be thinking of you and sending you strength as best I can.

  67. My thoughts and prayers are with you! There is nothing worse than the loss of a beloved child, and we are all keeping you in our hearts at this difficult time.

  68. I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you must be going through. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  69. I have been holding you and your family in my heart ever since I heard the terrible news. Prayers for all of you.

  70. Sheila, my thoughts have been with you and your family ever since I saw the news. My heart breaks for your loss.

  71. I am so sorry for your loss. I’m praying for you and your loved ones.

  72. There are no words that may comfort you…I look at the picture of that beautiful young man and his spirit shines through…I cry for you and yours…

  73. I’ve been thinking about you and your family every day since you posted this news. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I never met Justin, but it is so clear from what you shared here that you have such strong relationships with your boys and your family. I hope that your “in real live friends” are able to give you some comfort in the days ahead, and I hope you know that all of your “online friends” are thinking of you and sending as much love and support as we can muster.

  74. There are no words for such a tragedy. I am so sorry. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers.

  75. Sheila, I am so sorry for your lost. I can only imagine how you are feeling. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

  76. Oh Sheila, I am so so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in our prayers.

  77. I’ve been thinking of you so much since I saw your news on Facebook. To say you are in my thoughts, prayers and my condolences would be an understatement. It’s so clear the love you have for your family and the close and special bond you have with Justin.

  78. So so sorry. Thinking of you and your family. Take as much time as you need. We’ll be here when you’re ready.

  79. I’m so sorry for your tragic loss, Sheila, and will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

  80. So sorry to hear about this. I’ll keep you in my thoughts. Take all the time you need!

  81. I don’t have any words to use right now Sheila — just know that all your blogging friends have felt the joy, pride and love you have for Justin, and we wish there were something we could do for you. Right now it is prayers. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, and hope that God can ease your sorrow somehow.

  82. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  83. I can’t begin to express my sorrow for you. All my good thoughts are with you.

  84. sending hugs and tissues! I can’t begin to express my sorrow for your loss.

  85. Oh, Sheila, I am so sorry to hear this! I cannot imagine your pain but know that you are in the hearts and prayers of so many who have gotten to know you in the blog world and I’m sure far beyond that.

  86. Sheila, I am so sorry to hear your news. My condolences and thoughts are with you and your family during this heartbreaking time.

  87. I am so sorry Sheila. No parent should ever have to go through the pain of losing a child, regardless of their age. Take the time you need to be with family and know that your readers will still be here waiting for you when ever you decide the time is right to return.

  88. Sheila, so sorry for your loss. Words can’t to it justice, but know that we’re all thinking of you.

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  90. I’ve just come back from holiday and seen your terrible news on Twitter. You should be proud of the massive well of support that is forming over there – it is testament to your great contribution to the blogging world. I hope that you and your family can somehow find a way through this horrible time. ((HUGS))

  91. Oh, Sheila! I’m struck numb at these news! I didn’t know your son except what you posted; but he seemed to be a bright star. I can’t even imagine what you are going through right now; but if there is anything you need, please don’t hesitate to ask.

    Hugs,
    Tanya

  92. I’m so sorry, Sheila. All my love and prayers your way.

  93. I’m stunned to hear of this. & feel awful and heartbroken for you & your family. It’s shocking and I’m so very very sorry. I wish I could do something to make this not true. I keep thinking it can’t be true.

  94. Sheila – my heart hurts for you and your family. I wish I could be there in-person for you now. I will pray, I will pray so doggone hard for Justin and for all of you. I want to help, please reach out to me and let me know if there is anything I can do.

  95. Sweet, sweet lady. Just know we are here to help in any way that we can. I will never stop my prayers for you. I am so sorry for your family’s loss.

  96. So heartbroken for you. I hope you and your family find the strength you need in this difficult time.

  97. I can’t even imagine the pain you feel. I will pray for you and your family.

  98. Dear Sheila
    I am so sorry for your family’s tragic loss. Please accept my sincerest condolences.
    My thoughts and best wishes are with you as you come to terms with your grief.
    Bron xo

  99. “And when great souls die,
    after a period peace blooms,
    slowly and always
    irregularly. Spaces fill
    with a kind of
    soothing electric vibration.
    Our senses, restored, never
    to be the same, whisper to us.
    They existed. They existed.
    We can be. Be and be
    better. For they existed.”
    -from the poem, “When Great Trees Fall” by Maya Angelou.

    I know it is too soon but my prayer is that someday, some day soon, you may remember your loving boy with a smile on your face. He existed. He existed.

    All my love, Anne

    • This is lovely Anne. I have a friend this will be perfect for too. Thank you.

  100. I’m so very sorry, Sheila. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  101. So, so sorry for you and your family, and I’ve been thinking of you often since hearing the sad news! Justin accomplished so much in the short time he had.

  102. When I first saw someone’s comment here, on another post, I thought it was some sort of mistake, wondering why their heart was going out to you. I couldn’t find evidence of why. It was a couple of days later when I found out there really was something wrong–desperately wrong–and my heart ached. As deeply as we are feeling pain for you, it is a mere reflection of what you and your family and friends are feeling. In that same way, collectively our empathy is an earthly reflection of the comfort and support only God can give you at this time. It is that comfort that I pray for, for all of you.

    Though I’ve come to consider you not just an online acquaintance, but a friend, I didn’t realize how much so until this unthinkable tragedy occurred. Upon hearing it, the pain was acute and immediate, and the need to want to help was overwhelming. But there is so little one can do from afar, other than pray.

    What I’m happy to hear–and not surprised to hear and witness through facebook–is the rallying of all those who know and love you, your family, and certainly Justin. Poring over yours and his facebook profiles and looking at so many wonderful pictures, I’ve come to know him a bit more. It deepens the sadness over such a loss. You gave birth and raised a beautiful human being who, while he was here, brightened the lives of those he came in contact with and that light will continue to burn in so many lives and hearts. He left this world a better place and there’s no greater gift or blessing than that.

    It will take time to work your way back to any form of normalcy, and blogging will, at some point, become a part of that, even if it’s not the same or as frequent. It is in the resuming of everyday life that will eventually help heal this injury, though the scar will always remain. It is obvious there are people around the globe, due to the connections the internet provides, who sincerely care and will be here when you’re ready because it really is possible for people to love in this way. Hugs and prayers have been with you, Al and Brad so often these days, and will continue to be oxoxox

  103. I am so sorry to hear about this. I will be praying for you and your family.

  104. I’m so sorry for your loss, Sheila! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  105. Sheila, it is times like these where there are no words to adequately convey just how much my heart aches for you. Please know that you are in my thoughts and my prayers, and that I am there for you in spirit to provide you with all the support and love that I can.

  106. I’m so sorry, Sheila. I can’t imagine what you must be going through. May Justin rest in peace, and your pain ease with time.

  107. I am so terribly sorry to hear about your loss Sheila. It is any parent’s worst nightmare. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts, and we will all be here when you are ready to return. RIP Justin.

  108. Sheila you’ve got an entire book blogging community out here sending much love and grace and understanding your way. Please know that no matter how long you need we support you and we love you. Thank you for allowing us into your life. I pray that you and your family feel the love and support from those around you both physically and those of us here in the virtual world.

  109. So many big big hugs Sheila. We are all aching for you as a community. Sending you prayers and thoughts of comfort.

  110. I am so sorry. I have been praying for you and your family since you shared your post. Your family of book bloggers are thinking of you and know we are here for you. I know it doesn’t seem like much, but know you aren’t alone. Sending you lots of cyber hugs. xx

  111. Sheila, I am so so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you are in. I know there is nothing most of us can say or do to make you feel better but know that I am thinking of you and your family. Sending you lots of hugs and prayers. Hope your family can find some comfort and peace during this hard time.

  112. Sheila, my heart breaks for you. You’re in my heart and in my thoughts. xo

  113. I was so shocked and sad to hear about Justin, my heart is breaking for you and your lovely family. Words seem so inadequate for the unbearable pain you are in, I wish there was something I could do, a magic wand, anything. It’s a little thing in the face of such loss but the outpouring of love and support from friends, family and even complete strangers was some small comfort to me many years ago, I hope you find the same dear Sheila. Love and hugs xx

  114. Words, thoughts and prayers are all we can do at a time like this. Take care of yourself first, and then you can better take care of your husband and son.

  115. I cannot imagine what you’re going through, Sheila, but you and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers. I can tell from your Facebook posts that Justin was a wonderful young man and that he loved and was loved very much. I wish I had words of comfort to ease your pain, but all I can tell you is that I’m so sorry for your loss. It sucks, and it’s not fair.

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  117. Oh Sheila…I am so very sorry. Big hugs to you, from one mom to another. ❤

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  119. I wish I had better words to say but I am so very sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers!

  120. My deepest condolences – I cannot imagine the pain and sorrow of burying a child.

  121. Sheila, my heart aches for you so much. Every time I look into my son’s eyes I think of you. May God’s love and those of all your family and friends comfort you. Take care of yourself. Your blog buddies all love you.

  122. Sheila, I just saw this and words cannot begin to express how sorry I am for your loss. I know you’re close to your family and I just can’t imagine what you’re all going through. I’ll be praying for you and your family. Please know that the far-flung blogging community is thinking of all of you.

  123. I am so sorry and heartbroken for your loss. Prayers sent for you and your family.

  124. Sheila, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you and your family.

  125. Oh, Sheila — I’m so sorry — which doesn’t come close to conveying my feelings. My deepest condolences to you and your family. Holding all of you in my heart.

  126. Dear Sheila, I’m very sorry to read about your loss. It’s never easy to lose anyone especially a child. I know it’s hard right now but know your blogging/bookish friends are keeping you in their prayers and supporting you.

  127. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family – so very sorry to read of your loss this morning.

  128. Sheila, I am so deeply sorry for what you and your family are going through. My thoughts are with you and wishing you shreds of light in the darkest of days.

  129. I am so sorry for the lost of your son. I can not began to know how you feel. Very handsome young man.

  130. so so sorry to hear this sadness, Sheila.
    I haven’t been blogging during this time so was unaware til this evening of your incredible loss. My heart is crushed. Prayers a constant flow…
    May the Peace and Presence of Christ surround uphold comfort support and sustain you.
    May you know the everpresent Help of Immanuel, God with us, in this time of trouble..

    Much Love always….
    Sharon

  131. I’ve only just seen your very sad news. I’m so sorry for your loss x x

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  133. I can’t even imagine your pain. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

  134. I am so sorry to hear this. I’ve been away from my blog for a few weeks, and just came to check in on your when I saw your devastating news. I will hold your family and you in my thoughts. My deepest condolences on the loss of that wonderful man. I don’t know you but you have my sincere sympathy.

  135. my deepest condolences to you Sheila…. I have not met you personally but as your follower for years, please know that I am praying for your son and your whole family, praying to HIM that you get through this tough time… take care…

  136. Oh dear. I’m so sorry to hear this. No one, parent or otherwise, should have to go through this. I’m sorry. Thoughts are with you all.

  137. Your blog was one of the first to inspire me to blog about books and you continue to be an inspiration. This news is heartbreaking and I cannot imagine how you are feeling but I can send you prayers and love whilst you are hurting. From one blogger to another if there is anything I can do to help (even from the UK) just let me know. I am sure other bloggers feel the same as you are a powerhouse in the blog world.
    Thinking of you dearly in this difficult time and i hope each day brings you a little bit more peace. Lots of love Fay x

  138. Oh! I am so, so sorry Sheila. I am keeping you close in my prayers and sending you love…..

  139. Sheila, I have just seen this post and of course I am greatly saddened by the tragic loss of your son. I hope your family are coping as best you can, and that the great support you have online is matched by local support for you all. Thinking of your family at this terrible time.

  140. Oh my gosh, Shelia! I’m so sorry to hear this. 😦 Thinking of you and your family. Take care of yourselves. Sending you healing and love.

  141. I just read about this today and I am so sorry for the pain you and your family must live through. My heart goes out to all of you, and I hope that one day you will be able to come back to certain things in life like booblogging and your other activities. God bless!

  142. Sheila, I am so sorry to read this announcement on your blog. My heart broke for you because I have a 20 year old son and I can’t imagine the pain you’re going through. I know you love Justin more than words can express, even more now if it’s possible, through your writing. He seems like a wonderful young man and I can see why you are proud of him. I’m sending prayers to you and your family from Arizona. May God bring you and your family the strength to endure this most difficult time.

  143. I am new hear and when I read about the loss of your son it made me sad. I also lost my son when he was 26 in an ATV accident. It’s been 16 years but there are times when it seems like it just happened. I’m sorry you and your family are going through this. I know you won’t believe it but the pain will lessen and you will continue on with your life. Remember that every one grieves in their own way. I am so sorry.

  144. It has now been a month since this post went up and not a day passes that I don’t think of you or your son. I miss your smiling face and reading of your grand adventures, and wish I could be there for you in person during this time, even though I am just a long distance blogging friend. It is amazing the influence that can ripple out from one positive person, and you are one of those people. Hang in there, Sheila. You are loved and adored. xx

  145. OMG, finally taking time to revisit some blogger sand discovering this sad news. So very sad. Feeling for you and your family. Keeping you all in my prayer

  146. Hi Sheila, just wanted you to know you’re still in my thoughts. You’ve gone through a tremendous loss. Please get through each day as well as is possible for you(hattie)

  147. What a heartbreaking turn your life has taken. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. When you are ready the words will come again, but until they do, just be.

  148. Sheila, I am heartbroken for you and your family. Try to take comfort in your wonderful memories. Please know that I am thinking of you at this difficult time.

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