My Heart Is Broken Over The Loss Of A Dear Friend

In Memory of Elmo Jo DeChantal

September 18 1997 – October 25 2011

 Elmo came into our life in late 1997.  My son Justin and I went and picked him out at a kennel.  He was nothing but a 6 week old fur ball with eyes.  He was born with a hernia, had a scratch through one eye and a heart murmur…. he was perfect!

Bailey and Elmo on lake Superior in the wind

I tucked him inside my coat and we brought him home to surprise the family.  We all loved Elmo from day one… he was just what our family needed. 

In 1999, while talking to the boys at the dinner table one January evening, we discovered

AL with Bailey and Elmo

that Elmo had got off the leash while outside and he was gone.  I followed his tracks in the snow down our driveway where I could see he had been in the ditch and then I seen where a car had pulled over and picked him up.  I was devastated and unable to go to work the next two days.  The boys and I made signs and hung them up from the bar down the road all the way to every business all the way to the Casino which is about 40 miles away.  Four days later my husband took a phone call while I was at work from a bartender down the road.  He said a woman had stopped in earlier in the week and said she had just picked up a dog on the highway and she was going to take him to her daughter who worked at the casino.  Later that same night a second phone call came in from a

Justin with Elmo

girl who worked at the casino but claimed she found him wandering the streets around the casino.  She had taken him in, fed him from the buffet at the casino and took him home to Peirz Minnesota (about 40 miles away in a different direction).  Al loaded up the boys and went and paid the reward we had offered to get Elmo back.  What a miracle!

In 2000 while I was at work the boys were home from school one June and left the door to the deck open.  Sure enough, I get home from work and Elmo is gone!  I jump in my car driving up and down the roads near us, not knowing how long he had been gone or what direction he had went.  I spoke to my aunt who lives down the road and an hour later she called me – he had been found down the road on the other side of the

Brad and Elmo

busy highway about 4 houses down.. they were bringing him back to me now.  Again, we got lucky.

In 2009, I was cleaning the house one weekend and Elmo must have followed me outside when I took the garbage out.  Soon after my neighbor is knocking at my back deck door trying to be heard over my vacuuming, she had Elmo in her arms and said he had just been hit by a car.   I rushed him to the vet as he was bleeding from the mouth and after being checked over he was discovered to have…. road rash.  That’s it.  This 10 pound dog survived being hit by a car!

I share these stories with you because Elmo truly was a miracle in our lives.  We all loved him and he was truly the best dog I have ever – or will ever have.  Letting him go this afternoon was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do and I am a wreck. 

Our boys are now 21 and 23… that shows you how long Elmo has been with us.

He completed our family.  He was my constant reading companion.  I will miss him forever.

Elmo the afternoon of October 25th, 2011

69 thoughts on “My Heart Is Broken Over The Loss Of A Dear Friend

  1. Sheila, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. Having to let one of your babies go is one of the hardest things ever. I know that I was a mess when I lost Didi, so my heart goes out to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. *hugs*

  2. I am so sorry for you loss Sheila. It hard to lose a pet you cherish as family. Thank you for sharing some of Elmo’s stories with us.

  3. Sheila, I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. I had to put my Buddy down on Oct 22 of last year and the pain is still just as fresh as it was that day. There are no words to make you feel better. Just know there are people who care about you and how you’re feeling. It is truly the hardest thing to do when saying goodbye to them and my heart is breaking for you right now. I know that pain too well. Hugs to you.

  4. I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is letting go of our furry family members. We had to let our Mauser (a cat and amazing to all of our family) go in January. He will always be our little buddy and our hearts still break over it. We are so lucky to have these sweet little miracles in our lives who want nothing more than us.

  5. Oh, Sheila, I am so very sorry about the loss of Elmo. I have been there, and it is a difficult and heartbreaking place to me. Thinking of you and your family *hugs*

  6. So sorry Sheila. Letting go of a pet is one of life’s most painful things, but you really loved him, and I know he must have known that. My idea of heaven is being reunited with the pets I had during life. I hope you can see him again one day.

  7. belinda

    Sheila, I am so sad for you and your family. Thank you for sharing a few stories about Elmo. May he live in your heart forever. B

  8. There is little we can say to comfort you. He does sound like a miracle pup. I know the pain too of losing such a beloved friend. My prayers are with you.

  9. (((Sheila))) I am sorry. Saying goodbye to our beloved furry friends is truly devastating and my thoughts are with you on this sad day.

  10. Becky

    I understand. I pray for comfort and peace for you and your family. You will always have great memories of your dear furry friend to cherish forever. (((hugs)))

  11. i share your sadness. i’m still grieving the loss of my Gremlyn an Abbysinian/tabby/siamese who died in 2007. she and i were so bonded she went bonkers at home the day i crashed and burned on a rollerskating rink 40 miles away. many think that is mere coincidence but i’m convinced she knew

  12. Alison's Book Marks

    My sincere condolences to you and your family. Before I had my Bo, my very first dog ever, I didn’t understand what losing a family pet meant. Now that Bo is a part of our family, I get it. My heart goes out to all of you. RIP Elmo!

  13. Sheila, I am so very sorry. Saying good-bye to the pets we love is definitely one of the hardest things we have to go through! They love us unconditionally every single day no matter what! I have always felt that God gave us our pets to show us just a glimpse of HIS Unconditional Love for us.

    Praying for you my friend.

  14. Laura H.

    Awww…… My heart goes out to you and your family! I can’t begin to imagine how difficult this was for you. My sincerest condolences!

  15. Esme

    Sheila, my heart breaks for you. Pets are one of our children and Elmo seems like the perfect dog for your family. I hope that Elmo and all our pets are together over the Rainbow Bridge having fun together.

  16. Angie S.

    Oh Sheila! I’m so sorry! I know how much you loved Elmo and I will miss him sneaking down the stairs to join our book club. Your perfect reading companion just wanted to put his two cents in on the book!

  17. So sorry to hear about Elmo! Our pets become our children and it is devastating when we lose one. My prayers are with you and your family, may you find peace in knowing that Elmo is alive and well in heaven and you will see him again.

    Love and hugs to you, Al, Brad and Justin.

  18. Sheila I’m so, so sad for you and your family. Our furry friends are more than just pets, they really are a much loved member of our family and will be treasured, remembered and grieved for as such.
    {{Hugs}} to you from across the miles x

  19. I am so sorry for your loss my dear..

    As a reader of your blog – I have enjoyed you sharing your adventures of Elmo within your household…

    He will be missed…

    Hugz to you and your at this time..


  20. Sheila,
    I kmow exactly how you’re feeling right now.mim thinking of you and your family. Keep those stories going about Elmo because they will make you smile and laugh, especially when you don’t think it’s possible.

    Many many hugs to you!

  21. Oh Shelia – I’m so sorry for your loss! What fantastic stories about Elmo – he truly was a miracle dog – and VERY cute too. It’s no wonder you are missing him terribly. (HUGS)

  22. Losing a pet is so gut-wrenching and nothing we say will ease the pain. It makes me want to pick up my little poodle and be with him all day. Elmo certainly was a cutie!

  23. Suzanne Miles

    As I sit here reading your post, I am crying and my heart is breaking for you and your family at the loss of your precious Elmo. Our four-legged children only get to be with us for a short time, but in the time they are here they bring us such joy. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  24. I am so sorry for your loss. Elmo looks like he was a beautiful, precious little guy. I hope as time goes by, your loss will ease a little bit, but I know how hard it is.

  25. What a trooper Elmo was and thank you for sharing these wonderful stories. Sending you great big (((HUGS))) as you get through this time. Elmo will live on in your heart forever, nothing can take that away.

  26. I’m so sorry, Sheila. I know you guys will miss Elmo so very much. Thank you for sharing all the stories about Elmo (the wonder dog). Hugs to all of you!

  27. Caitie F

    So sorry for your loss. What an adorable and lovable dog!I know nothing I say can make you feel better, but just know I am thinking of your family.

  28. Oh, Sheila, I am so very, very saddened to hear of this news. My eyes are tearing up reading this, especially because of the picture taken yesterday afternoon, and I am sending you and your family a hug. Pets are family, through and through and while I can see that Elmo blessed your lives with his friendship and loyalty, always remember he most certainly was lucky to have you all as his family as well, as you were always there for him, too. I hope the pain of his loss eases, even though the memory of him will always remain.

  29. thanks for sharing the amazing stories about Elmo. I simply couldn’t help tear up reading about your beloved pet. What a blessing Elmo was to your family. I hope you find comfort in your wonderful memories!

  30. Carol M

    I’m so sorry to hear this. Losing are “babies” is one of the hardest things we have go through.

    Big Hugs,

  31. The following poem is inspired by this Norse Legend

    By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill,
    Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.
    Where the friends of man and woman do run,
    When their time on earth is over and done.

    For here, between this world and the next,
    Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest.
    On this golden land, they wait and they play,
    Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.

    No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness,
    For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness.
    Their limbs are restored, their health renewed,
    Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.

    They romp through the grass, without even a care,
    Until one day they start, and sniff at the air.
    All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back,
    Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.

    For just at that instant, their eyes have met;
    Together again, both person and pet.
    So they run to each other, these friends from long past,
    The time of their parting is over at last.

    The sadness they felt while they were apart,
    Has turned into joy once more in each heart.
    They embrace with a love that will last forever,
    And then, side-by-side, they cross over… together.

    My vet sent this poem to us when we had to make a hard decision and put our German Shepherd down almost 2 years ago. She was my constant companion and I still miss her. I loved this poem and I hope it brings you some comfort and peace.


  32. You’ve made me cry! I’m so sorry for your loss. Pets really are a part of the family and I know Elmo will be forever missed. He led a very exciting life, it seems 🙂

  33. holdenj

    Shelia, I’m so sorry for your loss but echo what others are saying, Elmo was truly blessed to have all of you too. Thanks for sharing those memories with us.

  34. Sorry I haven’t come by sooner, life got carried away a bit. I’m so sorry about the loss of Elmo. It’s sad when someone that has been around for that long is suddenly not there anymore. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts and I send all the warm wishs your way.

  35. I’m so sorry for your loss, Sheila. We lost my cat a little over a year ago and I still miss her, even though she had always lived with my parents. It helps to remember the good times. It sounds like Elmo lived a long happy life and he was as blessed by you as your family was by him.

  36. Oh, Sheila, I am so sorry to read this post. (Just catching up on some blogs now, so I apologize for missing this earlier.) Your Elmo was such an adorable dog, and you can definitely tell from your words what a special part of the family he was. I’m so sorry for your loss. As others have said, you will see him again. I am sure of it.

  37. avisannschild

    Oh Sheila, I’m so so sorry for your loss. I know firsthand how hard it is to lose a beloved pet. *Hugs*

  38. BARB

    Sorry to hear that Sheila, I know one day that day will come for us, too. I hear they are truly heartbreakers….but we can’t help loving them and inviting them into our homes, can we?!

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